Is it Intuition, or Insecurities?

A good friend of mine has been getting to know someone that she sees a future with one day. They’ve spend spending a lot of time on the phone, going on dates, and video chatting when they’re not in each other’s presence. She showed me a picture of him too…and he is FOYNE (lol)!

The other day, she told me she called his phone twice, and left a text message. He never responded to her text or phone calls. I took a close look at her while observing her body language. I could tell that she was ready to give up on him already. What she said later, confirmed my thoughts. She said, “He must be entertaining some other  &*%$@. I should erase his number out of my phone and just move on…I’m DONE!”

I’ve been there, done that…haven’t we all? I had my fair share of ignored calls and text messages in the past. However, just because someone stopped being consistent for a little while does not mean that they’re up to no good. In the case of my friend, this was the first time he did not respond to her calls since they started dating three months ago.

Maybe it’s just me, but I don’t understand why people feel the need to talk on the phone EVERY SINGLE DAY. “What did you want to talk to him about anyway?”, I said. She told me, “Nothing. I just wanted to hear his voice…but he’s tripping. I’m DONE!” I had to remind her that a football game was on, and he just probably wanted a day to himself, or was chilling with his boys.

Ladies, we have to learn to stop taking things personally. I understand you may have experienced cheaters, liars, and manipulators in the past…but everyone is not the same. When faced with uncertainty in a relationship or courtship, ask yourself, “Is this my intuition speaking to me, or am I just being insecure?” If you have to even ask that question, then 9 times out of 10, you’re being insecure. For real. 

I wish someone would have given me this advice a long time ago. It would have saved me from a few episodes of acting out irrationally because my mind was taking me to a place I should have never visited in the first place. Work on your insecurities, ladies. Your intuition won’t steer you wrong, but your insecurities will. 

Peace and blessings, 

Jerra Latrice