When I was approaching 30 years old, I was in a state of depression because I was still single, unmarried, and without a family. I used to look at people’s lives on Facebook…the engagements, weddings, “boo thangs”, and compare myself with them. Then, I’d end up feeling worse than I was before I logged on to social media!
I’m sharing my story with you to let you know I understand your frustrations and impatience with being single. But – just know that your singleness is only temporary. This too shall pass. I would advise you to enjoy your single season…take time to get to know YOU, stop stressing/worrying about not having a man, and please oh please STOP comparing yourself with others. Keep yourself so busy that you don’t even have time to think about the fact that you’re single!
Do you know how many married individuals there are that WISH they could be single again??? Personally, I know of a few. That’s why it is so important to realize that being married does not equate happiness, and being single does not mean you need to be depressed. There’s far more issues going on in this world to be worried about.
Now that I’m almost 35, I no longer feel the pressure of society (AND some family members) to “hurry up and get married.” I’m living and enjoying my life – unapologetically. I embrace my singleness, and I’m learning so much about myself in the process. Yes, I do desire marriage one day, but I’m not “thirsty” for it, by no means. All great things take time, and I believe God will send my husband when He feels I am ready to receive him.
Until then, I will continue to enjoy and embrace my singleness. I hope I inspire you to do the same!
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Peace & blessings,
Jerra Latrice
Jerry you said a most profound thing, get to know who you are. My wife and I spent the first 12 years of marriage just doing that. It was a really ruff time simply because we where trying to make each other happy. Now, had we can into the situation already happy and feeling good about self we could have been much more effective then, without all the drama. I really admire that you understand you have to learn to be happy with you first so that when you go into the relationship it’s not about you trying to make each other happy, it’s about you adding to the happiness that you already have.